40 Dates in 40 Nights

So as I mentioned in my last blog... I have gone a few dates. Because I have really tried focusing on my career and family first I have not really gone out since before Bree`na was born. So, I was talking with a friend and decided why not jump start this dating thing real quick... 1) I was quite uncomfortable with the dating idea anyway; 2) I don't know HOW to date :-) ; 3) I had no clue really where to meet people... my idea to jump start it was kind of like a drawn out "speed date" round -- you know where you date like ten people in one hour -- I was going to go on 40 Dates in 40 Nights. Sounded "out-of-this-world" ... my friend was like "how are you going to pull that off?" . So, I explained my thoughts --- I could do the whole uncomfortable dating thing with a different guy each night ... not really looking for "THE ONE" ... but just trying to get out there and understand how the dating world works these days... kind of a preparation to know what is expected. My plan was to do evening dates that were -- very public, but still fun and allowing for conversation... then if i liked them enough I could do a follow up lunch that would allow us to talk/connect on a deeper level or what not. My friend was intrigued at how i could make this work... so i embarked upon this journey :-).

Now the kicker was ... HOW was I going to get 40 guys!?!?!?! -- if I didn't know where to find guys before, what made me think i could find 40 for this. Instead of seeing this as a step-back, I seen this as an opportunity for inner change on my part... I'm not really all that shy but I definitely have never been forward on the "dating" front. So I got to thinking about the guys that have asked me out or shown interest over the last few months, and started making a list .... woohoo!! i had 12 candidates within minutes... not a bad start. Then with that list I came up with first dates that would be fun for those personalities and would allow us to get to know each other. Then as those people hit(means texted or called) me over the next few days, I let them know i was interested in a date and what I would like to do. As I went on these dates I also let them know up front I wasn't looking for anything serious right now... just trying to find some companionship --- "kewl people to hang with" --- and that I had many dates lined up --- just wanted to make sure not to mislead these guys... u know what I mean!?!?

So my journey began... I went on my first date... now to protect the innocence of all parties involved I have given nicknames to each candidate and will use those through out my stories.

First up was, Mr. Quick Committer. This gentleman is a record producer, and a very nice guy overall. I have known him for over a year, and he has tried to get em to go on a date several times. When I finally agreed to go on a date with him, he was definitely surprised and excited. We went to dinner at PF Changs, and then over to a Pool Hall to play a little billiards. Dinner was well, we had great conversation and I learned a little more about him... like he was wanting to settle down and start a family and so forth... now keep in mind I was upfront and let him know I had several other dates already lined up and what I was doing. When we get to the Pool Hall and we begin our first game, he gets down on a knee and ask me to marry him... yes MARRY HIM ... i was laughing thinking he was joking... but he was dead serious, saying "i know a good thing when i see it, and i don't want to let you get away from me" ... now I'm like WHOA!! ... okay this date has officially just gotten weird and needs to end... how do I do that without totally breaking the guy into pieces... hmmm ... I told him I'm not ready for marriage nor am I ready to continue the date with him because I didn't want to lead him on further. He asks me to stay and play and we can forget the "marriage" thing for now. I told him I was a bit uncomfortable and thought it best I go... I left and got several calls/text from him over the next couple of days, to which at first I just ignored and then I finally told him I just couldn't feel like making him think there might be hope when I knew I would not ever "be" with him.

Now, how was that for my first date back in the game!?!? ... Needless to say, it made me a little "iffy" to go on the rest of my dates. Mr. Quick Committer still text me ever once in a while to see if I have changed my mind yet... creepy, yet mildly funny :-) .

BTW... I have completed all 40 Dates and kept a great journal... to which all these post will be generated from... the next date will be posted soon... hope you guys enjoy reading this as much as I enjoyed writing and participating :-).

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